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How You Attach To Anything Is How You Attach To Everything: Including your dreams?

Updated: Jun 22, 2023

What You Will Learn in This Post...

  1. "The way you attach to anything is the way you attach to everything. This includes your dreams and aspirations."

  2. "Your dreams are not just goals, they are relationships. And like any relationship, how you connect matters."

  3. "Hope and vision are intertwined. Your attachment style not only defines your relationships but also how you envision your future."

  4. "Your attachment style is your vision style. It's your unique way of navigating the uncertainty of the world."

  5. "If you never fully attached to your dreams, you may never fully commit to them. Understanding your attachment style can be the key to unlocking your dreams."

  6. "Changing your attachment style isn't about slaying giants, but about growing into your own inner Giant."

  7. "Our attachment styles are not set in stone. Like us, they can grow and adapt, helping us to better connect with our dreams."

  8. "Transcending our past means updating the parts of us that feel small. In that growth, we find our true potential."

Ever caught yourself thinking about how you approach relationships and your dreams?

That might seem like an odd connection at first glance, but bear with me. It's like this – how you attach to anything is how you attach to everything. And this can significantly influence how you commit to your vision or dreams.

Let's start with a little background on attachment theory. It says that our relationships in early life, especially with our primary caregivers, shape how we bond with others throughout our lives. We often carry these attachment styles into adulthood, influencing how we form relationships. But what if I told you that it could also affect how you chase your dreams?

The Big Connection

Think of your vision or dream as a relationship. You've got to commit to it, right? It's a bond you're forming, a promise you're making to yourself. So, naturally, how you attach could affect this 'relationship' with your dream. If you're securely attached, you might dive in headfirst, ready to face any challenge that comes your way. But if you're wary, if past experiences taught you that dreams could leave just like people do, you might hesitate. You might not commit fully, for fear of being left in the dust.

The fascinating thing is, this attachment style also becomes your 'vision style.' It's how you navigate the uncertain, sometimes turbulent waters of ambition.

The Potential Pitfalls

But before we get carried away, let's address the possible loopholes in this argument. Attachment styles are typically talked about in the context of interpersonal relationships. Can they be extended to our dreams and goals? It's a question that needs further exploration. Also, a person can display different attachment styles in different relationships. This diversity suggests our attachment style might not be consistent in all areas of our life.

Moreover, dreams and relationships differ in significant ways. Dreams can't reject you or provide emotional support, so the dynamics of attachment might play out differently.

Shifting Tides: Changing Your Attachment Style

Fear not if you find yourself on the insecure side of attachment styles. Just as we can grow beyond the limits that once made us feel small, we can also shift our attachment style. This journey might involve therapy, such as CBT or DBT, or forming relationships with securely attached individuals. Practices like mindfulness and self-compassion can also be transformative. It's about transcending our past and reaching our fullest potential.

And remember, you're not killing off the smalls here. You're updating those parts of you that might feel small. You're not bound by your past experiences. So, dare to dream big, and commit to your vision with all the enthusiasm you can muster. Because the way you commit to anything is how you commit to everything.

Unpacking Attachment Styles

Before we dive deeper, let's spend a moment unpacking attachment styles. They are typically classified into three categories: Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant.

  1. Secure Attachment: Individuals with this style are generally comfortable with intimacy and trust, and they tend to have balanced relationships. They are usually confident, resilient, and able to pursue their dreams with courage and determination.

  2. Anxious Attachment: Those with an anxious attachment style often worry about their relationships and may fear rejection or abandonment. This can extend to their dreams, leading to anxiety about achieving their goals and fear of failure.

  3. Avoidant Attachment: People with an avoidant attachment style value their independence and often have difficulty trusting others. They might struggle to fully commit to their dreams due to a fear of dependence or disappointment.

Understanding your attachment style can help you recognize the patterns that may be hindering your growth and ambition.

The Journey Towards Secure Attachment

Transitioning towards a secure attachment style is not a quick fix. It's a journey that requires patience, self-awareness, and self-compassion. Here are some strategies that can help:

  1. Therapy: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can be particularly beneficial for understanding and shifting attachment styles.

  2. Mindfulness: Regular mindfulness practice can help you stay present and avoid getting caught up in past patterns. This can reduce anxiety and increase your resilience when pursuing your dreams.

  3. Secure Relationships: Forming relationships with people who have a secure attachment style can provide a positive model for how to form healthy bonds—with people and with your dreams.

The Power of the Inner Giant

In the end, the journey toward secure attachment is about embracing your Inner Giant. This is the part of you that is courageous, creative, and resilient. It's the part of you that knows you can achieve your dreams, no matter what.

So, even if you stumble, remember this: Your Inner Giant is not defined by the number of times you fall, but by the number of times you rise.

Quotes To Anchor in This Giant Message:

  1. "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams." - Eleanor Roosevelt

  2. "You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream." - C.S. Lewis

  3. "Believe you can and you're halfway there." - Theodore Roosevelt

  4. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today." - Franklin D. Roosevelt

  5. "The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude." - Oprah Winfrey

  6. "The only thing that stands between you and your dream is the will to try and the belief that it is actually possible." - Joel Brown

  7. "Man is a goal seeking animal. His life only has meaning if he is reaching out and striving for his goals." - Aristotle

  8. "If you want to achieve greatness stop asking for permission." - Anonymous

  9. "Dreams are the touchstones of our characters." - Henry David Thoreau

  10. "To dream anything that you want to dream. That's the beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want to do. That is the strength of the human will." - Bernard Edmonds

Curious about your attachment style? Take this quiz

This article was created in collaboration with AI.

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